To: All The Girls Out Looking🌿

It’s not all Notebook Material But it is all prayer request answered!

Growing up I always thought it would be this mystical guy from some place I’d never heard of but dreamed I could one day visit. Funny I know. Realistic not really.

Through my early teenage years I pursued Christ, hard. Day in & day out. I knew I didn’t have time or a want for a guy in my life till my One on One with Christ was more than fully established into my daily life.

“My son, do not forget my teaching, but let your heart keep my commandments, for length of days and years of life and peace they will add to you. Let not steadfast love and faithfulness forsake you; bind them around your neck; write them on the tablet of your heart. So you will find favor and good success in the sight of God and man. Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. Be not wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord, and turn away from evil. It will be healing to your flesh and refreshment to your bones. Honor the Lord with your wealth and with the firstfruits of all your produce; then your barns will be filled with plenty, and your vats will be bursting with wine. My son, do not despise the Lord’s discipline or be weary of his reproof, for the Lord reproves him whom he loves, as a father the son in whom he delights.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭3:1-12‬ ‭

Pursue Christ. All will fall into line. Not by your will. Or your way but most certainly by his❕

1). Don’t pursue a Guy until you’ve pursued Christ.

Girls get their heart broken for this very reason! You can’t find in a guy what you’re missing from God! It’s a fact.

When Christ isn’t the foundation. All else will sink. Fail. Go under. Having Christ doesn’t mean it’s going to be easy, it means you have a strong backbone to lean back on and look up too.

2). Don’t put yourself on a timeline.

It’s what every Female thinks! We have a personal timeline of our love life. By 22 engaged. 25 first kid. Second kid by 30. NO! Every person has its own timeline! So what if you get married at thirty? Your maturity. You’re financially ready. Don’t base your age on your love life. Yes it’s great to have goals but that’s not a goal that’s forcing something that’s in Gods hands into your control…. not the best decision.

3). Don’t compare your relationship with others.

Don’t base your future relationship with girl next to you! Yes advice is great. But don’t let comparison be the drive in a relationship, go at your own pace.

4). Don’t base a Guy by his looks but by his character!

Soooo guiltily. When a friend asked me about her interest in a guy, I said no he’s not “manly enough” and his voice is too girly… little did I know I was discouraging her from her future husband. Based on his outward appearance. My approach was about his willingness to be a man. Which wasn’t my place. But his character exceeded. It was what SHE wanted. I was basing it off of what I thought she needed or what I myself wanted.

5). Don’t neglect your family.

Also, guilty. I felt the need to cancel family plans in order to fulfill what my bf wanted to do. Which hurt feelings and created controversy, I decided if I made plan with a sister I followed that through. If it was a girls night I followed through. To be healthy together we also have to be healthy apart. If I made plans with Brennon I followed through. (Unless it was an actual emergency) but I made plans let each person know in advance so no confusion or feelings were hurt. I’m also the last child so at this point I’m always going to get teased about leaving someone or doing something, lol.

6). Run after God.

I read a quote once. “Run after God wholeheartedly, and the right guy will keep up.” I was like dang. I wasn’t sure if it hurt my feelings or fueled me. A little of both.

Just to the girl. Women. Friend. Not yet DTR. Pursue Christ all will fall into line. Not by your way but by God’s will. It’s not about rushing. Or having a changed last name. A cute couple pic. Or a ring. It’s about being the woman Christ created you to be to find a man that will lead you all the more towards Christ not away from him. To be kingdom builders together. Pursue Christ one on one. Pray for a mate that does the same. In due time. You’ll both be ready for each other.